Today’s young couples want to create weddings that are unique and reflective of their personalities. They respect tradition, true, but they spin it into something quite different from the celebrations enjoyed by their parents.
Modern Jewish brides and grooms still want to stand beneath a chuppah and break the glass. But they have a different approach to decision-making.
Millennials (those under age 38) tend to have an established group of friends. They also tend to know what they want. When those desires conflict with their parents’ recommendations, it’s not due to a lack of respect. It’s about personal expression. In the past, parents made the majority of decisions. Now, though, brides and grooms are weighing in, no matter who’s footing the bill. So, who wins?
In my experience, there is always a comprise to be had because everyone wants the same thing: a happy couple. The key is open communication. That way everybody can walk away feeling good about the decisions that must be made.
Millennials also are well-versed in digital communication. With ever-present smartphones, we see everything instantaneously on Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat. Today’s couples expect their guests to keep up and participate in this social environment, which can be challenging for parents, grandparents and great-grandparents.
Many millennials request that their guests go online to view dedicated, customized websites that contain all the information about the wedding, including accommodations and events. Registries are also online so that people can browse, purchase and send a gift without leaving home.
With this need for social sharing, where do you draw the line? It’s not uncommon to see guests snapping photographs of the bride as she walks down the aisle or the new couple’s first dance. But that prevents the bride and groom from selecting their own photos and posting them on social media when they’re ready. Some couples now are having “unplugged” weddings, where they ask guests to live in the moment and put their phones away.
No matter what style of celebration a millennial chooses, it is their decision and their big day. Just remember that open communication is the key to success. JN
Amy Petrovsky owns the event-planning firm Sensational Events in Scottsdale. For more information, visit sensationalevents.com.