Approximately 50 women joined me at Dance Fusion in the Scottsdale Airpark on Sept. 21 to honor the many women breast cancer survivors and their families and friends in our community. The event was filled with good feelings, delicious desserts and dance lessons.
After a warm reception filled with new and old friends, food and drink, we all gathered in a large circle. I shared a few of the many lessons I learned from my patients.
Probably the most important and consistent lesson from hundreds of women was “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff!” It is much easier to say than to do, but if said and thought often enough, it can become part of our lives.
Another important concept is “don’t ask, just do.” Most of us say we aren’t needy, when in reality, it would be nice to have someone reach out. We can all identify here. Everyone likes to be self-sufficient and not needy, but a meal prepared with love or an useful or helpful act is rarely requested but very appreciated. Follow you heart and your instinct will take you to what you need to do.
I also spoke briefly about medical advocacy. We all need to go to our physician appointments with appropriate questions and open ears. It is always good to take someone who cares about you to a medical appointment. People don’t always hear what the provider is saying and a second set of ears is always good. Think, listen and ask good questions.
After I spoke, many participants shared their stories and it was an intimate and beautiful experience.
And then the dancing! Dance Fusion is located in the Scottsdale Airpark and is a very generous Women’s Philanthropy sponsor. The owners donated their fabulous space and provided us with an excellent dance teacher who taught a fun line dance. It was easy-to-follow, great exercise and a highly energetic way to end the evening that honored the brave breast cancer survivors of our community.
Dr. Linda Benaderet practiced medical oncology, specializing in breast cancer and cancer genetics, until her retirement in 2012. She is an advocate for patients, a board member of Women’s Philanthropy of the Jewish Federation of Greater Phoenix, and chair of this event. The lecture was part of The Power of You speaker series.