I’m not sure where to begin. I first want to say that my synagogue – and I think synagogues in general – have done a really great job of welcoming congregants who have converted, are intermarried and are in gay and lesbian marriages. My synagogue also welcomes adopted children and Jews of color. It is still mainly an Ashkenazi population, but it quickly is becoming more diverse. The rabbi, cantor and board of trustees have worked hard and continue to work to make the synagogue inclusive.
But there is one population that seems to be left out: single parents. I think I speak for most single parents when I say we didn’t marry with the intention of divorcing. Unfortunately, divorce happens for all sorts of reasons, which oftentimes are private and painful. And as welcoming as synagogues have become of non-traditional families, the one thing they have in common is they remain two-parent households. Shira may have two imas, but there are TWO parents in Shira’s house.