November 26, 1999/17 Kislev 5760, Vol. 52, No.13
Letters to the EditorNovember 26, 1999
Love possible at any ageEditor:I am writing in response to the article "Dating is a Whole Different Ballgame" (Jewish News, Oct. 22). The article definitely answers an ongoing question: Is it okay to date after a spouse has passed away, even if you're over 50 years of age? The answer is yes. But dating is a different ballgame today, and when it comes to dating, those new to the dating game may need our help. In the past , love was old-fashioned - it was really looked upon as something sacred. So how to know what to do when love today is portrayed as lust, a fairytale dream? And when a rising divorce rate and other legal issues are also cause for concern? Mature men and women would love to date and find some companionship. They want intimacy too, but they are looking for the right person. Maybe if the rest of us followed their lead and focused on finding the right person, some of our troubles would disappear. While those returning to the dating scene can teach us a few things about real love, maybe we can help by teaching them new skills to help them better communicate with each other and overcome their fears. Perhaps when both generations are able to give a little and take a little, we can all learn from each other and better our lives. Barbara J. Ginis Tempe |
