Bernie's final lesson

Creating Connections

DAVE SHERMAN

1. During Bernie's funeral service, it was standing room only. The funeral home even had to slide open a retractable wall to make more room, and there still weren't enough seats to accommodate all the people. All of these people were there because of who Bernie was, not what he had done. People's successes are often measured by their list of accomplishments. Bernie taught me that the only accomplishments that really matter in life are being a great parent, a great spouse and a great friend.
   
   
2. One of the most touching parts of Bernie's service was when each one of his four children stepped up to the pulpit and shared a number of stories about their father. Instead of mentioning all the things they learned from their father, they mentioned many of the things that they did with him. As a parent myself, I want to make sure I can teach my children as much as possible. But after hearing these wonderful stories about Bernie, I was reminded how important it is to share as many experiences as possible with your children. They might remember the lessons, but they will always remember the stories.
   
   
3. After the service, we headed back to Bernie's home to consume an endless supply of nosh. As I listened to some of his contemporaries talk, I heard lots of laughing, smiling, and people generally having a good time. That's what Bernie would've wanted. That was how he wanted to be remembered. As I drove home, I started to think about how I would like to be remembered. While I'm very pleased with the impact that I've had on the lives of so many people, I'm glad Bernie reminded me to never lose sight of what is truly important.