Singles Connection


Get on TheList!
STORIES IN THIS ISSUE
FEATURES
     Zaka volunteers cope with death
     Rabbinic match game
COMMUNITY
     Agencies cut back
     'Taste of Israel'
FASHION
     Jewish T-shirts
NATION
     Mel Gibson movie
     Syria's actions
WORLD
     Reach out to Arabs
ISRAEL
     Turning point?
     Haifa bombing
OPINION
     Editorial - What would we do?
     Commentary - Human cost of terror
     Commentary - What if no weapons?
     In the Mail - Letters to the Editor
BUSINESS
     Party planning becomes career
     Mind Your Own Business - Business Calendar
     People on the move
SINGLES COLUMN
     Are photo albums 'baggage' or souvenirs?
COMING UP
     This Week
MILESTONES
     Births
     B'nai Mitzvah
     Engagements
     Anniversaries
     Obituaries
SENIORS
     Events
SINGLES
     Datebook
EDUCATION
     'Framework for Excellence'
TORAH STUDY
     Sukkot gives meaning, purpose to our lives

Get on TheList!
HOME PAGE

October 10, 2003/Tishri 14 5764, Vol. 56, No.3

Zaka volunteers cope with death

For Zaka rescue volunteers, grisly deaths are a part of life

LOOLWA KHAZZOOM
Jewish Telegraphic Agency

Volunteers of the Zaka organization's Hesed Shel Emet division pick up small pieces of flesh and body parts to ensure a proper Jewish burial for an Israeli victim of a Palestinian suicide bomber in Kfar Saba, early in the intifada.
When I shower, it usually takes me seven minutes," says Hayim Foxman, a volunteer with Zaka, the fervently Orthodox rescue and cleanup organization that collects victims' body parts after terrorist attacks. "But after I return home from a terrorist attack, it takes me an hour and 20 minutes."

Foxman pauses. "And I don't know if I am soaked from the water or my tears," he says.

Married and a father of four, Foxman says his work can be emotionally draining for his entire family.

"When I return home after a terrorist attack, one of my children comes and says, 'Daddy, look what I did in kindergarten today!' And I respond, 'Say thank God you are living. What do I care what you did in kindergarten? Say you are happy you're alive.' My kids look at me like, 'What happened to you?' "

Today, three years after the Palestinians launched their intifada against Israel, Foxman - like most Israelis - has acclimated somewhat to life under the strain of terrorism.

Foxman and his wife have a system for dealing with the intense emotions that follow terrorist attacks.

"I have come to understand that when I come back from an attack, I am extremely agitated for a few days," Foxman explains. "My wife knows that when I come back from an attack, it's better to speak with me about what happened, so that I will free myself. It's very hard for her to hear these things, but she knows that listening makes it much easier for me."

The Foxmans' experience is typical of that of Zaka volunteer families.

According to Yehuda Meshi-Zahav, who founded the organization in 1989, volunteers - there are currently 900 - and their families commonly suffer from post-traumatic stress.

"You're talking about humans, not angels," Meshi-Zahav says.

In addition to doing rescue and cleanup after terrorist attacks, Zaka volunteers work at the scene of car crashes and building collapses around the country.

The organization's Hesed Shel Emet division - which translates as "true righteousness" - deals with the fatalities from these incidents. Volunteers gather the remains of bodies, identify as many parts as they can and bury as much of a victim's body as possible - including blood - in one grave.

The Hatzalah Mehira - or "rapid response" - division is an emergency response squad of volunteers on motorcycles who arrive at the scene of incidents to administer first aid until ambulances can arrive. Usually, they're at the scene within four minutes of the incident.

The Itur Vehilutz - or "search and rescue" - division specializes in the rescue of people trapped in cars and buildings.

All volunteers in the Hesed Shel Emet division are fervently Orthodox men. The other divisions include women and non-Orthodox Jews.

Zaka volunteers say their faith in Judaism gives them the strength to keep going - and is their reason for volunteering in the first place.

The commandment to bury the dead is one of the most central in Jewish law, explains Meshi-Zahav. Even a kohen, a member of the priestly cast forbidden to touch dead flesh, is allowed to bury a body if it is otherwise left unattended.

A dignified end to life is a universal right, Meshi-Zahav says.

Bringing this dignity to victims often triggers intense feelings of grief among those collecting body parts, but it also has had a positive impact on volunteers' lives.

"I value life more," Foxman says. "I know that when a person comes home from work, we need to thank God that we returned."

When Zaka first started, volunteers' wives had a difficult time coping, and many of those married to Hesed Shel Emet volunteers asked their husbands to give up the work.

Zaka developed a psychology program for volunteers. But nobody sought counseling in the program - apparently for fear of seeming weak-kneed - and the problems persisted.

Zaka then adapted its psychological counseling program to 20-person workshops. In groups, the volunteers "can see that everyone has the same problems, and they can open up," Meshi-Zahav says.

In addition to psychological counseling for Zaka volunteers, there also is a support group for volunteers' wives.

The women's support group holds a national conference every Hanukkah, as well as smaller regional gatherings throughout the year, according to its founder, Yehudit Weingarten.

Zaka also holds two annual family days, where volunteers and their families come to relax and have fun.

Zaka volunteers say they find the programs helpful.

"In the beginning, it was extremely difficult," says Shimmy Grossman, who describes one particularly gruesome experience.

"I was at my sister's house and we heard an explosion on the street right under her house. I went downstairs and began taking care of matters. Suddenly, I saw the head of a baby. It made me crazy. For a full week, I was delirious and hallucinating."

After psychological counseling, Grossman got past his symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder.

To deal with what they've seen, one husband-and-wife team of Zaka volunteers uses gallows humor.

"We try not to repeat it outside the house," laughs the wife, who asked not to be named. She says her teenage children also have developed this bizarre sense of humor.

"It's a family thing."


Home