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December 7, 2001/Kislev 22, 5762, Vol. 54, No. 13
Hanukkah teaches us about resilienceLEONARD FELDER, PH.D.More than 30 years ago a psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania named Martin Seligman ran a famous series of experiments with lab rats. His rats gave up trying to escape from an obstacle course because they were frustrated by painful jolts happening at random times that they couldn't control. Seligman named this phenomenon "Learned Helplessness." He also said human beings can also fall into passivity, feelings of helplessness, and serious depression if they give up trying after a series of painful events in their lives.Hanukkah, especially the way we are celebrating it this year, can be seen as the story of fighting back against passivity, depression and "learned helplessness." Yes, there have been random jolts of terrorism that shocked Israel repeatedly over the last 14 months. Yes, there have been terrible tragedies upsetting all of us ever since Sept. 11. Yes, the world has felt dark and frightening at times this year. And yes, there have been personal losses, disruptions and economic setbacks in many of our lives recently. But Hanukkah comes into our homes and our hearts once again with teachings about light, resilience and never giving up on what truly matters in life. We sing songs and remember the heroism of our ancestors who refused to assimilate into Greek society. They stood up to a frightening king named Antiochus who was threatening to kill them if they didn't bow down to his idols. At Hanukkah, as a way to boost our resilience, we light candles to bring in holy energies of courage and renewal during the darkest days of December. We remember that our ancestors were absolutely committed to doing their part in scrubbing, painting, rebuilding and repairing the holy place of worship that the opposing armies had destroyed. And we offer thanks that a mysterious loving Presence somehow made the oil that was only enough for one day burn for eight days instead. This year as you light the candles with your loved ones and say, "Ha-neirot ha-lah-loo ah-nach-nu mahd-leekeen," which means "we kindle these holy lights because of the wondrous support You brought to our ancestors," think about the kind of holy strength and support you will need to be resilient and committed to goodness in the months to come. As we emerge from these dark months into renewed light, may you be blessed with the creativity, persistence and wisdom you will need to bring light and healing to the needy people and situations in your life. Even if it's just one person or one situation that you are called upon to help, may the lights of Hanukkah glow within your heart as you face each day. May you, your loved ones, and the entire human family have a happy Hanukkah. We definitely need it this year. Leonard Felder, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist. His newest book, "Seven Prayers that Can Change Your Life" (Andrews-McMeel, $12.95 paperback) is about the practical applications of Jewish spirituality. |
